Have you been remiss in focusing on what you don't want, rather than what you do? Many are predominately focused on what they don't have rather than on the abundance that awaits once you focus upon it.
Reframe your thoughts as you won't get far asking Universe for one thing while really believing you can't have it. Thus, it seems many enter into situations from a position of believing they do not merit what they seek. So each one must learn through life experience if their thoughts take them to where they seek to go. Do you at times scratch your head and wonder why something happens? Or why something else doesn't occur?